It’s Okay To Be Vulnerable

Did you know that vulnerability is a common trait and can be found in every person? And it is totally okay to be in a vulnerable state. Embracing your vulnerability contributes to your confidence and work performance. Therefore, to further enhance our productivity, we need to analyze our inner being, and specifically how to embrace our vulnerability and to convert it into inner power. Together with our skilled speaker, Soft Skill Course: Embracing Vulnerability is here to help you accept, embrace, and turn your vulnerabilities into your own powers.

The Soft Skill Course is a series of events conducted by the Soft Skills Division under the Department of Professionalism, which was targeted to polish the soft skills students possess in preparation for life after university. The courses are in the form of webinars where experts of their own fields are invited to share insights on the importance and development of certain soft skills. This time, Soft Skill Course 3 adopted the topic of “Embracing Vulnerability: Muscling Up Inner Power” and invited the remarkable Rahmat Fajri, Human Resource Business Partner in Unilever.



Let’s Talk About Vulnerability

“Vulnerability is about emotions about acknowledging your emotions. When we talk about being more emotionally vulnerable.” pointed Fajri, when defining vulnerability.

Fajri pointed out that the best example of vulnerability is when someone is asked to be open to eye-to-eye contact. At that slight moment of 30 seconds, everyone would have the tendency to laugh because they feel awkward. At this moment, is when every aspect of yourself is exposed and you feel vulnerable. Other examples are

  • Difficult or Painful Emotions
  • Sadness
  • Shame
  • Anxiety
  • Frustration, etc.

Sometimes, it is better to acknowledge painful emotions rather than immediately avoiding them or trying to get rid of them.


12 Defense Mechanisms

During our early stages of meeting a new phenomenon, our brain has the capability to use its instincts and intuition to take the first steps or reactions. This is because of our little first brain called the Hypothalamus. These are the instincts that decide our choices. The first 12 reactions that usually take place are.

  1. Compensation – Strengthen one opinion to hide another
  2. Denial – Refuse to face a negative behavior
  3. Displacement – Take it out on someone else
  4. Identification – Attach to something positive
  5. Introjection – Conform feelings for approval
  6. Projection – See your faults and foibles in others
  7. Rationalization – Excuse and justify mistakes
  8. Reaction Formation – Pretend you are different
  9. Regression – Act much younger to feel better
  10. Repression – Putting things into darkness
  11. Ritual and undoing – Override negativity with Habits
  12. Sublimation – Divert negativity into acceptable

A good example, cited by Fajri, is a romantic relationship where usually either the boy or girl will get possessive and curious if they aren’t together. This suspicion of negativity is the early stages of the defense mechanism that could lead to a shady relationship of distrust.


Exploring Your Opportunities

Your opportunities usually come and go, and Fajri pointed out that we should take account of all the possible opportunities for developments that are handed throughout our Campus Life. May it be new sports, organizations, or event taking courses with stiff lecturers.

If your graph of Dreams, Career Plan, and Purpose was plotted, it would be a nice and balanced one, but it only happens as a projection of someone perfect. While the reality would be as wonderful and creative as a child’s doodle. It is not bad, but it is reality. Building towards resilience and projecting it into action, everyone usually starts from uncertain situations, tough challenges, personal issues, and unsupportive environments.

We should start by observing our vulnerability, and then carefully evaluating them, at the end of the journey we will accomplish a true definition of what our self-worth is, and you can now define where you are and what you need to do about it. (Cen/Journalism)